June 17, 2004 @ 4:02 pm by sean
I’ve concluded that a need to be impressive has a direct correlation to the truth. Or a denying of the truth. The truth and the Truth are wonderful. Ryan and I decided that without God’s Truth there can’t be any truth. I think that’s what we decided. Anyway. A lot of times, it seems people will deny the truth in order to keep up an image of themself. So this time, instead of doing something to make one look better, one does something to prevent them from looking worse. They will try to cover up a mistake, try to prove themself right even if they know they are wrong, try to hide something about them that people might look down on them for. And the reason we feel a need to do this, is we feel a need to impress other people, to look good in the eyes of others. And like I said last Monday, trying to impress others instead of God isn’t good to do one any good.
If you’re wrong about something, I won’t think any less of you, so don’t worry about trying to be right. If you’ve made a mistake in your life, don’t feel you have to cover it up, I’ve made mistakes as well and have no reason or right to look down on you. And I hope you’ll allow me the same.
This goes along with knowing that life will be over soon and there is no reason to worry about non-eternal matters. I don’t care if I’m wrong about something, it doesn’t really matter at all. I don’t have expectations to live up to except the standard God has set for me. He’ll forgive me anyway, so if I know He doesn’t care if I’m wrong about something, I have even less reason to be concerned about how others feel about my wrong-ness. If I’m living my life loving God with all my heart soul and mind, and loving my neighbour as myself, it’s no big deal if I’ve made a mistake, because I’m not trying to impress, I’m trying to love.
And that is what it seems to come down to. One can’t live to impress people and try to love people at the same time. One interferes with the other. If I’m trying to look good to someone, and try to love them at the same time, then I’ll become vulnerable in love and do things not so impressive. If I’m trying to love someone and then try to impress them, I may have to do things that aren’t out of love, or do something love isn’t concerned about. 4Love….does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is….not self-seeking…..it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love cannot do anything in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 if one is trying to impress at the same time.
I love everyone. I don’t like everyone. But it seems more often than not, the ones whom I don’t like, are the ones concerned about impressing other people over loving other people. Friendships are conditional with these people. They are easily angered and hold grudges. They put too much concern on their image and other things that don’t really matter. They are easily offended and can’t joke about something incorrect about them. When one knows the truth, one can joke about it with no fear of the false image it may portray. I think that can be seen most obviously in the way some people joke about being gay. They know they aren’t homosexual and know others know they aren’t, so they feel free to jokingly talk with a lisp or make ‘gay’ actions(I’m not condoning this, simply using it is an example.) because no one will think they are actually gay. But with something not as known as someone not being gay, they get a lot more ornery and defensive when someone makes a joke about something that isn’t true about them. And then instead of ‘yes and’-ing like Ryan taught us about improv, they ‘no’ and set everyone straight and take away all the fun. Knowing the truth allows one to make fun of themself with no apprehension.
*I tried to keep this one short, but it keeps getting longer like the one last Monday.*