May 23, 2004 @ 10:51 pm by sean
‘Edit: lova changed to luve for grammatical reasons.’
Alright, I need some answers. This whole love thing completely escapes me. Trying to understand it is proving to be as easy as understanding the existance of God(go figure). And as Ben told me, until I completely have faith in God, I’ll never realize the fullness of love.
Fine. I’ll deal with that.
I understand loving other people as humans. I understand loving family. I understand loving friends like family. But loving another person as, as well nothing else seems to elude my understanding. In order to ask any question, I need to cover up the sins of our insufficient English language and make up a new word. This word is ‘luve’. The easiest definition for luve is how a husband and wife are supposed to love each other.
There are quite a few questions about luve, so I’m not sure there is any logical order to ask them in. So I’ll just ask. And if any readers of this can provide any answer, I would appreciate it. I won’t be offended by any answer, nor will I think any less of anyone for an answer given.
Can one luve more than one person? It seems to make logical sense one could not luve more than one person at a single time, I think that is kind of the point of luve; but can one fall out of luve with one person, and into luve with another? So could the boyfriend who says to each of his 5 different girlfriends before he’s married, “I lo(u)ve you.” actually have some truth in what he is saying? Or the couple who gets married and says “I lo(u)ve you.” when they get married but get a divorce, did they ever really luve each other in the first place? It would seem the attributes of love in 1 Cor. 13:4-8 would apply to luve also. 4Luve is patient, luve is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Luve does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always PERSERVERS.
8Luve never fails.
This question kinda goes with the last, maybe not. Can someone luve someone who does not luve them back? Denison Witmer seems to say no. If someone says they are ‘in luve’ with me, but I’m not in luve with them, do they really luve me? Or does luve not take two people?
How does one know they are actually in luve with someone? Is it something one ‘knows’ when they feel it? If it’s that vague, how can one be sure?
Dang, I had more questions but can’t think of any of them. I would preferably like to get married in the next few years or so and that would require someone to be in luve with me and my to be in luve with someone, but logic says understand something before you do it. So many people seem to get luve wrong, or confused, and I don’t want to be one of those people.