November 10, 2003 @ 4:58 pm by sean
laughter is a funny thing. how much laughing out loud do we do, is really warrented? it seems that unless we are with someone and sharing in the same experience, a situation is rarely funny enough to laugh out loud. i think the only time we laugh out loud when we are alone in an experience is to get someones interest so they will want to know what is so funny and so you can have them join in the experience with you. to me, that seems as ridiculous as asking for sympathy. if something you do isnt noticible enough to get someones sympathy, or you want to tell someone how dumb you are just to get their sympathy, then neither you or their sympathy is worth it. i think that even when we are alone and we know no one can hear us, we still laugh out loud so maybe, hopefully someone could hear and want to know whats funny. just so we feel like we are ‘cool’, that we laugh at ‘funny things’. if you have to ask for attention, the people who give it to you probably dont care anyway. so unless youre goin to start an interesting conversation about something i didnt ask about, i probably dont care. if you cant tell me what you know in a constructive conversation, than the breathe i use to merely say words like, ‘yea’ ‘uh hu’ ‘thats neat’, could be better used somewhere else. not that i dont use those words anyway, but when i use only those words in a conversation, either something else has my attention, or im just being nice and saying what little i can to make your insecure self feel that you are saying something important. thats not to trivialize things people tell me, some of you have interesting things to talk about and id be glad to hear about it. but start the conversation by asking if im interested in something, so youll know if its worth telling me about. i dont care to know how smart you are or how much you know about a certain topic that doesnt pertain to my life at all. so if you plan to start a conversation with ‘this is a really neat magazine’ and then saying nothing else hoping i will ask, ‘why is that?’ and then you can dispell your wisdom on me, i wont. ill just say, ‘thats good.’ and carry on with what i was doing. if you where to say, ‘have you read this magazine? you might find some of this stuff interesting.’ and maybe even tell me some of how it is interesting to get my attention, id be more likely to react with a ‘oh really? what is so interesting about it.’
i hope this didnt make me sound like a jerk. i just think that some people crave attention too much. my friends dad once said, ‘the fact that you have a mouth, doesnt mean you have to use it.’ so if i feel i dont have anything important to say, than i wont talk. ‘words spoken by the wise bring them favor, but the lips of fools consume them. the words of their mouths begin in foolishness, and their talk ends in wicked madness, yet fools talk on and on.’ ecclesiasties 10:12-14. my friend shane said this, maybe he got it from somewhere else, but, ‘in talk, thought is half murdered.’ so the more you say, even if your thoughts were intelligent, you still give yourself more opportunities to show yourself a fool.
well this was long, and in writting it i may sound like the people im writting about, but im not forcing you to read this and you could stop at any time and i wouldnt know anyway.